By the way, most of my
service as a deacon was initiated by Diane. For example, she also “volunteered”
me to join with her as a hospital chaplain team. And it was her interest in the
Bible, founded in her Baptist roots, that led me to consider starting our
parish’s Bible Study program. Letting God call us through others can also be
humbling and a key element of service.
Indeed, true service
can be done only in humility, otherwise it simply isn't service. I can
be only humble or prideful; there’s really no in-between. If I try to serve
another, but do so in pride, I am really only serving myself, building up
my "self-image" as today's psychologist might say.
For example, the Wildwood Soup Kitchen is a true ecumenical ministry, with volunteers from over 30 churches, plus a synagogue, all helping out as we prepare and serve 300 meals every day. On occasion I ask some of these volunteers why they are there. The responses are varied and
interesting:
“It makes me feel
good.”
“I like helping
others.”
“It’s my way of
repaying for all I’ve been given.”
…and many more similar
answers. There’s nothing “wrong" with these motives, but they aren’t
centered on humble service. Sometimes I’m told, "Because Jesus commands
it,” and I suppose that's a better reason.
But to really serve another
completely, I must lower myself and place the other higher. Only then can I see
the other as he or she truly is, as a child of God who was loved into existence by the creative Word of God. Jesus, of course, gave us the recipe for this when He said:
“For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was
thirsty and you gave me drink, a stranger and you welcomed me, naked and you clothed me, ill
and you cared for me, in prison and you visited me” [Mt 25:35-36].
If we see everyone we
serve as our Lord, Jesus Christ, then we can be nothing but humble. And we must believe
this in our hearts, accepting that God's love extends to all. Failure to accept
this is perhaps the greatest obstacle to carrying out the kind of service
demanded by our Lord:
“…whoever
wishes to be great among you will be your servant; whoever wishes to be first
among you will be the slave of all. For the Son of Man did not come to be
served but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many” [Mk 10:43-45].
As you can see, we are called not only to see Jesus in
others – to recognize the Divine Presence in others -- but also to do so in
imitation of Jesus. We are called to serve, not to be served, to be a
"slave to all.” And that's impossible...without God's help. It's
impossible because it is not human, but divine. It is to love as God loves.
It’s not something we can do on our own, and so we must turn to God for His
help. We must become needy before God and allow Him to serve us.
And so we encounter another of those wonderful Gospel
paradoxes. We have a need to serve and to be served. And these two needs -- to
serve and be served -- are gifts from God. To turn down a gift from God is a
horrible failing, and so we must accept both.
Too many Christians are great at helping others,
but hate being helped by others. They want to carry out the call to serve, but
don’t want to let others do the same. Of course, it’s apparent what’s behind
this failing – the same thing that’s behind almost all of our failings: pride.
The truly humble servant is also willing to be served. St. Peter, who seemed to offer a perfect example of so many human failings, typified this unwillingness
to be served when, at the Last Supper, he resisted Jesus’ attempts to wash his
feet. Jesus has to threaten disinheritance to get Peter to accept this humble
service by his God.
Of course, Jesus’ greatest act of humble service is His
Passion and Death. St. Paul, in his beautiful Christological Hymn in the Letter
to the Philippians, describes this remarkable act of divine humility and
service:
“Have among yourselves the same
attitude that is also yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the
form of God, did not regard equality with God something to be grasped. Rather,
he emptied himself, taking the form of a slave, coming in human likeness; and
found human in appearance, he humbled himself, becoming obedient to death, even
death on a cross. Because of this, God greatly exalted him and bestowed on him
the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should
bend, of those in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue
confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father” [Phil 2:5-11].
What more do we need? The Christian, then, following the
Great Commandment, serves both God and God’s people, and does so in the
humility that only God can give.
True humility, you see, is nothing more than a firm grasp
of reality. Once you and I contemplate and come to understand, if only partly,
the indescribable greatness of God, at the same time we come to realize how
truly insignificant we are. It’s hard then to be anything but humble. But we
are lifted up knowing that God Himself, in His greatness, chose to become one
of us.
In a great example of understatement Paul says, “…He
emptied Himself…He humbled Himself…”, and in a perfect, continuing act of
humility, Jesus does so again and again, every day on all the altars of the world.
He makes Himself sacrificially Present through the Eucharist and actually
allows us to take Him into ourselves. Do we ever consider the humility evident
in this divine act of service to all of humanity?
Mary is our other great example of humility in service.
Mary, saved from sin, knew she had received a wondrous
gift from God. Her call was to accept the gift of God’s Son in the deepest
humility.
I don’t have time to address the fullness of Mary’s
humility, but I think it’s telling that her first act after the Annunciation
was to make the difficult and long trip from Nazareth to Judea to spend several
months with her aging relative, Elizabeth, who was awaiting the birth of John
the Baptist. Gabriel had just told Mary that she, “full of grace,” would become
the mother of the Son of God. This could easily go to a young girl’s head;
after all, she would bring forth the Messiah foretold by all the prophets and
hoped for by generations of Jews. But in her humility she thinks not of herself
but of her kinswoman and makes this remarkable journey of service to another in
need.
My father used to say, "Humility's a very strange
commodity, because once you know you have it, you just lost it." The
saints, of course, were all humble. How could they be anything else? I doubt
they even considered this virtue of theirs to be humility. For them it was
simply reality. In a sense, humility is the great foundational virtue, the sine
qua non without which no other virtue can develop. Without humility all
other virtuous attempts will be overrun by pride and buried in the self.
We
are, then, challenged to humility and to commit ourselves to a radical and
total gift of self to others. Can we imitate the humility of our Lord? Are we
committed to seeking ways in which we can serve others, showing them we love
and care for them with God’s love?